May 09, 2026

The City of Shame and Joy

 Draft from 2015, FINALLY deep edited. 5/8/2026 (c)  

For Art T


1.

I waited six thousand miles

and twenty-four years for your birth

to some other mother.

 

With every one of my five miscarriages

my womb emptied

unformed and inert pieces of you.

 

I seek to enfold you

in rich endometrium mulch—

 

delay the final push

as you wrench free—

silence

where there should be screaming.

 

There will never be a natural birth

between us.

 

2.

Drowning americanos in the coffee shop

you spoke about your childhood in Yerevan—

haunted by a century-old genocide.

 

You were lyrical about Inanna

and pre-Hellenistic goddesses—

heady describing

Communism’s collapse—

 

insurrection is your pornography.

 

You were twenty-four years younger.

So much knowledge,

you even corrected my English.

 

 

3.

Abruptly

you kissed me.

 

Our nose posts clinked together

like a flamenco dancer’s castanets,

a precise, complicated rhythm

one had to live to know.

 

I inhaled your exhale, lavishly,

slow as savoring champagne, your exhale—

the only air worth breathing.

 

And for a moment, I thought,

maybe I can do this again.

 

4.

When you found me

I was storing fat

like an American black bear

preparing for hibernation,

 

an aging mammalian alchemist

no longer cultivating milk.

 

Little remained

of the desires rising

behind stalagmites—

this want so sudden, unexpected—

it felt violent.

 

I am too old for colostrum,

milk gone thin—

I am a fraud of a mother.

 

With you, what else could I be?

 

5.

You traversed continents

and wherever you tarried

mothers surfaced—

mini-mothers, mothers-to-be,

monotremes, marsupials,

wounded women

hooked by the chance

to nurture,

to be in your narrative.

 

I am not the only mother

to tongue-trace

your indecipherable map of ink—

to touch the steel-filled,

the empty piercings

scattered like initiation wounds

from a tribe existing only

in your imagination—

 

I am not the only mother to think

I could thread them all

with fish wire

and tether you to my skin

 

connecting us

in a resplendent amalgam of pain.

 

I was never the only mother

to molest and exalt you.

 

6.

I tell you—

You are the gist of all my memories.

Every recollection holds you—.

we are two incoherent stories

that merge into a whole.

 

I tell you—

I was in the shadows at your birth

I watched your naivety break.

It was not my place, not my skill set,

not my doing or undoing

to move you from fugue to joy.

 

Yet I am but a ghost

of your mother

crossing through.