May 10, 2026

Dear Single American Men

 5/10/2026 (c) 


On the Monday my father died

three strangers reminded me to smile.

 

Behind a wire fence

you stubbed out a cigarette

like you were killing a roach or trust.

Hey, smile lady.

 

Why grieve—

it’s a woman’s obligation

to improve the scenery.

 

Barista, you paused before frothing cream—

you’d be prettier if you smiled.

 

There it is. I got it—

from the executive suite.

 

That day I felt freed

of my father’s body shaming:

fat girl, hips too fat, thighs too thick

ugly face—don’t cry!

 

No man likes a sad woman.

His shaming—but not yours.

 

I’d rather read alone at the bar

than hear unsolicited advice

and poorly executed pick-up lines.

Calamari intrigues more

than your touch ever could.

 

I remember

 

you wouldn’t hire me.

Over-qualified—

your clients couldn’t accept a woman.

Mediocrity is the white noise

behind business.

 

When you promoted me

for less than the man

before me—

and after.  

They had families to support.

My daughter counted

as little as me.

 

When I threatened to sue—

unless you quit asking for blowjobs,

stop pressing me against  

the walk-in freezer

to bite my earlobe,

 

You molested me at 7,

raped me at 21,

and again at 56.

Age did not protect me.

Was it good for you?

 

Single American men,

on the day my father died

my duty to love any man died.